The idea of being a single independent woman is so exciting. But, you will reach a certain period in your life when you feel uncomfortable every time people ask how old you are (yes, those kind of people do exist in Indonesia. sadly). Because many times that question will lead to another questions. Which are : do you have a boyfriend at the moment?; when are you planning to get married?; don’t work/study too hard until you forget to get married. You know, Indonesian people are sometimes “too care” about other people’s business.
While it’s normal for western people to stay single during their twenties, it’s a bit “abnormal” for people in my society to stay single during their late twenties. And I’m now in (what they called) critical age. It’s nonsense, though.
Most of my high school and college friends have already got married and have (a) kid(s). While I haven’t got any desires to get married to anyone at the moment. That’s why now I choose people with whom I talk. Most of my old friends are starting to ‘lecture’ me about life, as if they’re suddenly become experts on life after they got married. Don’t worry, I’ll get married eventually. I already have a big picture in my head on how my wedding day will look like. So, yeah sometimes I think about it. But the thing that we called “marriage” is the periods after that wedding day, right? And now, I’m still afraid to think about those periods. Some people look less happy when they enter a marriage phase (especially when they already have kids). I don’t want to be like those people.
My view on relationship is a lot different with my view on marriage. I’ve learned that there’s nothing but time that can heal a broken-heart. I never afraid to fall for someone, though I’ve failed so many times. I don’t know, but I think falling in love is the easiest job in the world. The hardest job is keeping that love despite all of the challenges you face while sailing your (relation)ship. 🙂
Don’t date someone you’re dependent on. Date someone who makes you more independent and makes you want to be better.
ps : I don’t believe in coincidence. I don’t believe such thing as ‘love at the first sight’. First time I met you, we just talked for about less than 1 minute (nothing happened). Second time I met you, we were interacting for about 30 minutes. My heart started pounding hours after that. And actually it leads me to write this short post on my blog today. Maybe if you’re too curious and starts googling stuffs about me, you’ll reach this blog page. At least you’ll get a rough idea about my point of views regarding relationship and marriage. If, by any chance, we can get closer, I’ll tell you more about this.